By definition is bliss… A state of contentment, joy, good feeling… All that positive emotion and generally a state of being Happy. we all want to be Happy. Nobody doesn’t want to be Happy .. No one wants to be sad. That little sad and miserable girl in the corner, Or at the back of the room who doesn’t say more than two confident words.. No one wants to be that girl.. Everyone pitties that girl. Many may pretend that that is what They want, But take it from me.. They are lying.. I would know… Everyone wants to have joy in their lives.. Laughter… Peace… Every man, woman, child wants to be Happy all their days.. And more than some are ready to do everything humanly possible to earn that happiness.. Being Happy all the time is such a beautiful thing .. But i guess everyone knows that.. I mean, who would go out of their way to be miserable for all their days?? No one. Unless you got your life twisted. One thing that is for sure is we all get our thrills from different things.. Again, not rocket science. Music, sitting infront of a screen, thinking, writing, sports, chatting up strangers online, partying ..whatever…. We all derive our happiness from very different places… The best thing you can do for yourself and your sanity is to be Happy as much as you can cause life is too short .. Or too long to live through it sad…. Depending on How you wanna see it. So, here is a few ways to ensure you are kept Happy as much as you possibly can.
“happiness is a gift only I. can give myself.”
1. Find what makes you Happy and do it. Alot.
Lead yourself to discover what you like to do and do it as often as you possibly can.. Though i must say, this hobby has got to be of non detrimental value to you and your immediate surrounding.. Cause if it is, that will bring with itself alot of unhappiness. You like reading, grab a book in your free time.. You like to dance.. Put your music on and make the world your dance floor .. You like to sing.. The shower is all yours.. Do what you like to do as often as you possibly can. Fortunately for the human race … There are so many things we can do so to keep ourselves not idle. Which brings me to,
2. Avoid being idle and alone all the time…
Spend as little time alone and idle as you possibly can. That combination right there is a recipe for alot of negative affect. See, what happens When you’re idle and lonesome is you start to think about everything and anything. Good and bad. All this thinking may take an unpleasant route. You will think about what’s good.. What’s bad.. And what’s better… Why? When? Wat the heck?? And somehow you’ll start to doubt your recent decisions. Or not. But most likely. So, if you are going to be idle, be idle with somebody .. Or people. You could make something fun out of all that idleness… You could even turn all your combined idleness into a party ..who knows??
3. Step out of debt.
If you are old enough to understand what you read When you read… You are old enough to know the implications of debt… For starters, When you owe somebody money, They temporarily own a certain part of your thoughts… In one way Or the other. Atleast you tell yourself that.. And you cannot successfully plan your future financially without having to give that debt some thought.. Thinking of ways to pay the debt.. Devising means to lessen that burden can do a number on you. And this number to be precise is cutting back on your ability to be Happy. More so if your creditor is in your face alot more than you’d like.. Or the sum is more hefty now that Its pay back time.. So, get rid of debt, Atleast financially and work up a plan of staying debt free cause you will not live in debt after debt all your life.
You do not have to be serious all the time.. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be serious at all though. Personally, i have come to learn that it really is never that serious. Unless it involves health Or how fast the wallet is shrinking… Then it is serious. But you need to let loose and laugh it out often. If Its funny, laugh.. If Its embarrassing, laugh your shame away. I have successfully laughed through some of the most disturbing days and i gotta say, it works. Crack a few jokes, surround yourself with people who will laugh with you.. And make you laugh. And learn to laugh at yourself. You will see. The correlation between laughter and happiness is high as be.
You gotta have Faith. Faith in God, Faith in yourself, Faith in people.. Well, those that deserve it.. You got to be a believer. There is joy in the Lord. And what’s better than knowing there’s Always someone Thats got your back? When you have Faith in God, He can never let you down and He too wants you to be as Happy as you’d like.. You don’t have to keep looking back and you can focus on what’s ahead cause you have that Faith that assures you that all is well. And that is a sure way to be Happy. Having a social network that you can allow yourself to believe has your best interests at heart goes a long way to protect you from all that that would make you unhappy.
6. Do your thing.
Do not try to fit in everywhere. You are very much yourself as much as the people you are trying to fit in with are themselves. The.best that you can bring to the table is that part of you that isn’t gotten anywhere else. Love yourself and do not be afraid to be who you are. Then you will be Happy with yourself and it will reflect in your quality of life. Pride in your creativity, dance to your own tune.. And do not be sucked into anyone else’s thing. Be your own person and you will have one less reason to be unhappy.
7. Be as pleasant as you possibility could.
You do not want to walk into a room and have everyone show themselves out Or reach for their phones. You don’t want to be seen coming a mile away and have people ducking so as not to have an encounter with you. Because if that happens, no one will like you. Even those that pretend to will soon tire of the pretence and hang you out Or keep pretending… Don’t know which is worse. Point is no one likes an unpleasant person.. And much as we all think we couldn’t care less about who likes us Or not.. We do. And get affected. Not positively. Smile back When smiled at, say what you have to say without stepping on anybody’s toes, don’t be mean and don’t always play victim. You will be Happy if the people around you don’t go out of their way to make you as miserable as you make them.
8. Give yourself a break.
Once in a while you gotta chill and rest your mind, body and soul. Do not be so hard on yourself When you mess up, God knows you will make more mistakes than you can count. Reward yourself for your victories. Treat yourself, and do not let your problems be the centre of your existence. Because if you do that, you will get sad and depressed. And you can’t have it all.. Or can you. !? Do not ignore your problems.. Face them and know that sometimes it will get worse and messy before it gets better. Do not settle for what you know you can get better of. Its not a crime to sometimes put your happiness first.
Your attitude has alot to do with the quality you will live and happiness is an attitude that looks good on anybody and everybody.
“you showed me that i could feel emotions that aren’t sadness.”